Dealing with Rejection
Rejection, particularly by the ones you desire the best for could be quite painful. I’m speaking from experience. Each time it happens and I feel this deep pain, I hear “Jesus came to His own but they rejected Him, so who are you?” And I’ve come to realize that being rejected in itself doesn’t make me the bad person but how I respond.
I asked my Facebook friends “Why throw tantrums and seek to destroy if it doesn’t favor you? Shouldn’t you consider the common good? Does it have to be you?” and got interesting and divergent views.
Your spouse looses interest and you think s/he should die. Your employer believes they have a better option and you feel that company should go into liquidation. Or your date opts out and you choose to make his life a living hell. The political party you’ve supported all your life says don’t fly their flag and to you that party shouldn’t exist any more? Maybe it’s your community and you arrange thugs to make the community uninhabitable.
It hurts Being rejected really hurts Please believe me when I tell you I know that feeling, especially when you’ve given it your all and you can’t understand why you have to be rejected
Assume those persons rejecting you are your enemies; why not let them be? Move on and succeed so they bite their fingers in regret. Your kind thoughts should reflect in your ability to accept the rejection, step back and wish them well. That’s power under control. Such a person is unstoppable!
Let Jesus be our Role Model. He would never mislead us.
In as much as it is hand to handle rejection, it is best to dust yourself and move on, we become better and stronger persons when we do that, but dwelling on it makes us lesser persons and vulnerable
Rejection? Naaay.
I just know that you i am accepted in the beloved. That’s what God says about me.
Anyone who rejects me is the loser.
Celebrate yourself and just love who you are.
If along the way,one or two people reject you, just take them as the few exceptions and that you can’t win everyone .
Also appreciate and hang around people who value you irrespective of their class.
The problem is that we expect acceptance from certain level of people .
I totally agree it’s not the rejection that’s all that bad but how we react to it. As a leader it can be painful but sometimes that kind of pain helps you to focus and prioritize.
Wishing the person who rejects one well is the healthiest response for us. Thanks for this piece…..
Certain things when talked about seems unreal until better experienced. Sis, you talked truth. Rejection when positively responded to later provokes greater achievement and respect. Keep on doing the good works. His grace will see you to the end.
Certain things when talked about seems unreal until better experienced. Sis, you talked truth. Rejection when positively responded to later provokes greater achievement and respect. Keep on doing the good works. His grace will see you to the end.
Thanks for sending the link to your blog. I read it. It is thoughtful and sensitive at the same time. But I disagree with parts of the conclusion beginning with
“ ….. assume those persons rejecting you are your enemies ……”
Humans and human nature can oftentimes be fickle. What may be perceived as rejection may not necessarily be so.
It may well be that person needing a personal space to deal with some deep and grave issues that have absolutely nothing to do with the ‘rejected’. Sometimes it’s a transient mood that would eventually pass but the other person ( the rejectee ) has already overreacted and so a complication results.
Sometimes the rejectee May mis-perceive and cause unintended hurt. Sometimes it be actual rejection ( for a myriad of unfathomable reasons ), how the rejectee deals with it both outwardly and inwardly May repair or even diffuse the situation eventually. In such cases rapprochement would usually be a gradual process after the initial disengagement. It’s complicated but that why we are humans.
Pls try to avoid infusing the scripture into these scenarios. There is an unintended risk of trivialising the Living Word…. Dejo
Good morning Dejo and many thanks for your feedback. I get and agree with your point raised and that’s why I’m cautioning against the “rejectee” acting in a manner that could be destructive. Then I said assume, which really is merely addressing a possibility. It doesn’t mean that it’s of general application. Everything for me rest on Christ. He gives clarity in all cases. Again many thanks for taking time out to share your thoughts on the topic. Kind regards.
I have always believed that throwing tantrums or acting in any unbecoming manner when rejected implies that the “rejected” has a narrow view of issues and is only focused in the momentary outcome or result. Often times when we handle rejection without bitterness and anger we create an opening for ourselves in the future of that relationship. Nothing good can come out of anger and resentment, we should consciously take the higher path of dignity.